Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like the only thing option you have is to say yes, when all you want to do is say no? Are you afraid that you’ll get in trouble or jeopardize a situation? The act of agreeing to everything out of politeness has been so ingrained in our minds since we were young, but the truth is- it’s okay to say no. It’s okay to stick up for yourself and stand by your morals and beliefs. Here are some reasons you should say no:
- You can’t control other people’s view of you.
Everybody is going to form an opinion around you, no matter what. The best thing about it is that it doesn’t matter. If you believe you’ve made the right choice in standing your ground and saying no, then why should you care what others think of you?
- Only you can identify what’s a priority in your life.
Everyone has their own priorities. If someone is peer pressuring you to do something you’re not comfortable doing, don’t give in. You have those beliefs for a reason and you should stay true to yourself.
- You don’t owe anything to anyone.
You don’t owe an explanation or an excuse for your decisions. You are your own independent person who should make your own choices. Pride yourself in that!
- Your time is valuable.
If someone is asking you to do something for them, but you’re already overworked, overbooked, and simply way too busy, just kindly decline for another time. Give your reasons and they will understand if they’re a good friend. You have to make time for yourself and putting too much on your plate, especially when it’s unneeded, can really overwhelm you.
- Life keeps going.
The world isn’t going to end if you turn something down. We’re all navigating through our own journeys and you have to believe and trust that you know what’s best for you. Remind yourself that forgiveness and understanding can happen, even if you seemed to have disappointed someone along the way. As long as your intentions are good, you don’t have to stress yourself out.
Saying no isn’t always selfish and doesn’t always have to be a negative thing. Time is the most valuable asset you have so use it wisely. There've been many times when friends would get mad or selfish whenever I declined to do something, but I realized that they were the ones that were being selfish. Let go of the pressures of agreeing to everything especially when it conflicts with how you actually feel. It’s okay to be more mindful and cautious about your decisions.
Let us know your thoughts on this article. Have you been in situations where you didn’t say no, but wish you did? Also, will you start saying no more from now on?
♡ Cry Baby
Written by @tyrahdae
Edited by Esma
Sources:
https://therapychanges.com/blog/2018/08/its-okay-to-say-no/
https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/5-reasons-why-its-okay-say.html
https://nourka.com/blogs/nourkaco-blog/3-reasons-why-its-okay-to-say-no
37 comments
I love this. Sometimes it’s so hard to say no & makes me feel guilty, so this made me feel much better about saying no. Thank you for this!! 🤍
ok but the 3 point really hit home . i feel like i struggle with this sm too just bc i live in the mentality when i feel like i should always hold on to the past ? and loyalty has always been so heavy on my heart , but truly you don’t owe something to someone who did you wrong , and omg that took me so long
to learn . because in the back of my head it was like “would they get mad it i did this” etc . and they aren’t in my life anymore ! love how you pointed that out 🤍🤍
Thanks for reminding me that I am important too. It’s so easy to forget that sometimes 🤍
I’m terrible at saying no to people so it was lovely to see someone talk about how it’s OK to say no. Thank you for this post. Amazingly written xx
I’ve found that it’s difficult for me to say no in different situations, since it’s usually a friend or a family member asking me to do something i may not want to do. This really really helped me open up more about being able to say no, and not regret it/ have second thoughts later ;)