Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like the only thing option you have is to say yes, when all you want to do is say no? Are you afraid that you’ll get in trouble or jeopardize a situation? The act of agreeing to everything out of politeness has been so ingrained in our minds since we were young, but the truth is- it’s okay to say no. It’s okay to stick up for yourself and stand by your morals and beliefs. Here are some reasons you should say no:
- You can’t control other people’s view of you.
Everybody is going to form an opinion around you, no matter what. The best thing about it is that it doesn’t matter. If you believe you’ve made the right choice in standing your ground and saying no, then why should you care what others think of you?
- Only you can identify what’s a priority in your life.
Everyone has their own priorities. If someone is peer pressuring you to do something you’re not comfortable doing, don’t give in. You have those beliefs for a reason and you should stay true to yourself.
- You don’t owe anything to anyone.
You don’t owe an explanation or an excuse for your decisions. You are your own independent person who should make your own choices. Pride yourself in that!
- Your time is valuable.
If someone is asking you to do something for them, but you’re already overworked, overbooked, and simply way too busy, just kindly decline for another time. Give your reasons and they will understand if they’re a good friend. You have to make time for yourself and putting too much on your plate, especially when it’s unneeded, can really overwhelm you.
- Life keeps going.
The world isn’t going to end if you turn something down. We’re all navigating through our own journeys and you have to believe and trust that you know what’s best for you. Remind yourself that forgiveness and understanding can happen, even if you seemed to have disappointed someone along the way. As long as your intentions are good, you don’t have to stress yourself out.
Saying no isn’t always selfish and doesn’t always have to be a negative thing. Time is the most valuable asset you have so use it wisely. There've been many times when friends would get mad or selfish whenever I declined to do something, but I realized that they were the ones that were being selfish. Let go of the pressures of agreeing to everything especially when it conflicts with how you actually feel. It’s okay to be more mindful and cautious about your decisions.
Let us know your thoughts on this article. Have you been in situations where you didn’t say no, but wish you did? Also, will you start saying no more from now on?
♡ Cry Baby
Written by @tyrahdae
Edited by Esma
Sources:
https://therapychanges.com/blog/2018/08/its-okay-to-say-no/
https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/5-reasons-why-its-okay-say.html
https://nourka.com/blogs/nourkaco-blog/3-reasons-why-its-okay-to-say-no
37 comments
Thank you for this post… I feel like my friends are always trying to peer pressure me to drink when I’m really not comfortable with it for super personal trauma related reasons… thank you for helping me see that saying no isn’t a bad thing. I don’t owe anything or have to explain myself to anyone, ever.
I think that I am just too kind to say no, but sometimes, I feel like saying no will make a situation or something awkward, so I end up saying yes. I feel like saying no makes things easier for me sometimes, even if I have to deal with what happens afterwards. Of course, there ARE situations where no is the only answer I will give. :)