Reasons Why It's Okay to Say No


Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like the only thing option you have is to say
yes, when all you want to do is say no? Are you afraid that you’ll get in trouble or jeopardize a situation? The act of agreeing to everything out of politeness has been so ingrained in our minds since we were young, but the truth is- it’s okay to say no. It’s okay to stick up for yourself and stand by your morals and beliefs. Here are some reasons you should say no:


  1. You can’t control other people’s view of you.

Everybody is going to form an opinion around you, no matter what. The best thing about it is that it doesn’t matter. If you believe you’ve made the right choice in standing your ground and saying no, then why should you care what others think of you?


  1. Only you can identify what’s a priority in your life.

Everyone has their own priorities. If someone is peer pressuring you to do something you’re not comfortable doing, don’t give in. You have those beliefs for a reason and you should stay true to yourself.


  1. You don’t owe anything to anyone.

You don’t owe an explanation or an excuse for your decisions. You are your own independent person who should make your own choices. Pride yourself in that!


  1. Your time is valuable.

If someone is asking you to do something for them, but you’re already overworked, overbooked, and simply way too busy, just kindly decline for another time. Give your reasons and they will understand if they’re a good friend. You have to make time for yourself and putting too much on your plate, especially when it’s unneeded, can really overwhelm you. 


  1. Life keeps going.

The world isn’t going to end if you turn something down. We’re all navigating through our own journeys and you have to believe and trust that you know what’s best for you. Remind yourself that forgiveness and understanding can happen, even if you seemed to have disappointed someone along the way. As long as your intentions are good, you don’t have to stress yourself out.


Saying no isn’t always selfish and doesn’t always have to be a negative thing. Time is the most valuable asset you have so use it wisely. There've been many times when friends would get mad or selfish whenever I declined to do something, but I realized that they were the ones that were being selfish. Let go of the pressures of agreeing to everything especially when it conflicts with how you actually feel. It’s okay to be more mindful and cautious about your decisions.


Let us know your thoughts on this article. Have you been in situations where you didn’t say no, but wish you did? Also, will you start saying no more from now on? 



Cry Baby

Written by @tyrahdae

Edited by Esma


Sources:

https://therapychanges.com/blog/2018/08/its-okay-to-say-no/

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/5-reasons-why-its-okay-say.html

https://nourka.com/blogs/nourkaco-blog/3-reasons-why-its-okay-to-say-no

35 comments

  • I love helping people, and I’ve always had a hard time saying no. It got to a point I’d go all out to help people, cover shifts, go out with friends, and I would be so exhausted… and then people wouldn’t do the same for me. The select few people that are worth it would, but not the majority of people I was trying to help. It took a lot of discipline, but over time I was able to say no without a reason. Just “No.” or “I can’t, sorry.” People don’t always need an explanation.
    Thanks for sharing!

    Carlee
  • Two words: NUMBER THREE!!! That’s all.

    Destinee
  • I fully relate to my time being valuable! Once I realized that my life all of a sudden got much happier, toxic people “disappeared” and I had time to do all the things I didn’t before!

    Alex
  • i’ve really related to this post recently. i had a long talk with my coworker last week about how we both have a terrible time saying no. we are too nice even when we don’t receive niceness back. i’ve gotten taken advantage of all 2019 & 2020 is when it stops. i’ve already had my first “saying no” experience 2 days ago & it felt like a weight lifted off every bone in my body. you come first. 🤍

    marah
  • Well gee, how I went wrong at number 3 …

    sterre
  • A true inspiration ly

    Denitsa
  • i think this kind of messages/quotes can always help someone with mental health problems. imma probably read this over and over in hard times cuz it always helps. it is so important to know ur worth. just wanna let u know that u really did help me w that even if its just some words that keep me stay strong. keep going xx p.s. i really love ur clothes

    :)
  • This article helped me a lot, I’m going through so much right now mentally and it’s been difficult. I don’t have many people to lean on or talk to, and that’s partly my fault because I’m not sure how to bring it up and I’m the type of person to not want to bother others with my own problems. I’m going to be screenshotting this article so I can look at it whenever I feel down and it’ll remind me that there is way more to my life and it will eventually get better for me❤️

    Camryn
  • love u esma🥺

    mia
  • i think since i was young, i have always felt the pressure to agree to everything. now that i’ve begun college, i’m realizing the importance of my time and my energy. thank u for this healthy reminder 🤍

    Kai
  • Important message to read, and then read again. If you can determine what you need for yourself, in order to make yourself happy.. that is so powerful.

    Holly
  • Yes this is helpful! I would always say yes to everything because I didn’t want to come off as rude and change people’s mind about me…:( however you made valid points about how it isn’t selfish of me to think of myself first for one ! 💌

    Melissa

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